Daring to be Seen

kimwatt
Aug 24
2 min read

The Journey back to you and learning how to risk again, even when it feels scary.

The Comfort We Long For

We all long for the comfort love brings. To be accepted. To belong. To feel safe. To be loved, not just the polished, presentable parts of us, but also the messy, insecure, anxious, worried, doubtful parts.

And yet, so often we don’t. Because to truly experience deep connection, the kind that makes our whole selves come alive, we have to risk.

Risk vulnerability.

Risk rejection.

So instead of feeling wild and free to be ourselves, we settle for safety. We hide the parts of us that desperately want to be seen and alive. And every time we choose safety over risk, a little part of us dies.

Small Risks, Big Rewards

If you’re beginning to wake up, to ask questions, to revisit your life and long for more, risk will be part of your journey.

Small risks. Simple risks.

Texting or calling a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while
Confiding in someone you trust and telling them you’re struggling
Sitting in a coffee shop or restaurant by yourself for the first time
Risking by saying you’re sorry, knowing that just because you apologized and owned your part, it doesn’t mean the relationship will be healed
Risk letting go
Risk knowing not everyone will be your person, and that is okay. It takes courage to find this out.
Risk not being liked.
Risk by allowing the spirit of love to lead you.

Learning to Re-Parent Yourself

Before or as you begin taking risks, learning how to re-parent yourself is a vital part of the journey. Risk stirs up uncomfortable and painful feelings. And if you don’t have the tools to comfort and soothe yourself, more often than not you’ll begin to spiral.

That’s why learning how to sit with your pain, walk through it, and offer yourself comfort matters so deeply. Nobody else can do this for you.

If you don’t know how to regulate your emotions, the moment you risk letting someone see a part of you, rejection or fear can send those parts scurrying back into hiding-maybe never to risk again.

You Are Loved

That’s why it’s essential to remind yourself:

You are loved
You belong

And the truth is, we need each other.

The more you learn to be with yourself, to give yourself the love you need, the more risks you’ll be willing to take. And slowly, the world becomes colorful and alive again.

My Journey

Emotional regulation has been a huge part of my own inner journey. It’s what saved me. It’s what taught me how to be in my body and come back to life.

Take the Risk

So if you’re someone who feels like you’re dying on the inside but longs to live again, take the risk. Find a therapist, a guide, or a friend who can walk this journey with you.

And if you’d like me to walk it with you, reach out at kim@kimwatttherapy.com.